Writing Your Wedding Vows


According to Plato, “At the touch of love everyone becomes a poet.” These words could never be more evident than on your wedding day. It is the ultimate poetic adventure to stand at the altar before all to profess your undying love and make all the promises you are bound to forevermore. Since the beginning of time or as record holds, since the Roman Empire between 17 BC to 476 AD, the father of the bride would deliver the bride to the groom, and the two would speak their romantic wedding vows to one another. Most couples desire something a little deeper than a repeat after me and choose to write their wedding vows from the heart, just as they did eons ago. Let’s delve into the poetry of wedding vows and discover how couples can write them.


Writing Wedding Vows

Wedding vows are not always a first thought. We get caught up in wedding planning and everything from the dress to the venue, but we only begin to get nervous about the wedding vows when the clock ticks closer to our wedding day. Then we are presented with the decision of whether to let the officiant dictate our words or to seize the moment and make it unique. When couples want to write meaningful words that gush with sentiment and create a forever memory, they must figure out whether they will employ a wedding vow writer for help or they will wing it on their own. According to Plato, all it takes is a little love to confidently dip into the ink and write the language of love into your vows.

Create an Outline

Before you start to write, consider whether you will employ a professional writer or go it alone. Decide what level of help you want and how much autonomy you need. Create an outline with all the reasons this other person has your heart and all the reasons you cannot imagine a life without them in it. Remember how you fell in love, and what it was about this person that shoved you into a bottomless pit of limerence forevermore. Your outline should open with all the reasons why and transition to all the promises you yearn to make, such as to love, honor and cherish for ever after. Whether you are planning on writing your wedding vows or employing a wedding writer, the outline will be essential for both.

Using Quotes to Open


Your wedding vows will be unique, but might contain a few borrowed pieces. The favorite lines of Corelli’s Mandolin are a moving example of this, when love is defined as “ . . . a temporary madness [that] erupts like volcanoes and then subsides. [It’s when] your roots have so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. [L]ove is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion. [L]ove itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident.”


Variations of this beautiful piece of literature are a perfect way to set the stage for your wedding vows and express the deep, tested and tried love you have for the person before you on your wedding day. If you choose to open your wedding vows with a quote, choose a quote that is significant to your relationship and experiences. Not every quote will set the stage appropriately for your unique romance.

Writing Unique Wedding Vows

Writing your own wedding vows to follow your grand open provides the opportunity to create something unique and from the heart. Whether you open with a quote and follow with a quirky story that trembles with emotion, the promises you make are the most important part of your wedding vows. Make your unique list of promises. They can be short or long, cute or funny or a meaningful variation of something traditional. Whether you hire a wedding vow writer or choose to go it alone, your short or long list of promises will be equally important and necessary.

Say "I do" at Crystal Ballroom on the Lake

However you choose to write your wedding vows, say "I do" at Crystal Ballroom on the Lake. Let the designers add a little creativity to your fairy tale. Walk on a bed of rose petals down an aisle decorated just for you, and kiss beneath an organza canopy and crystal chandeliers. Bring imagination and allow the designers to create something from fantasy. Contact Crystal Ballroom on the Lake to schedule your VIP tour.

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